The man in mid-life crisis is a tired trope of our western social narrative–appearing in books, films and jokes about big boats and fast cars. Others who wish to bring a political or gender-based analysis to the conversation may comment, “first world problems” or “male privilege”. There is truth to all of that.
I think, based on my own experience, that there is much to be unpacked from this phenomenon that reflects a deep dissatisfaction with the roles we have all been cast in and the expectations we have from one another. I’m not going to solve all this or even succeed in describing all this. I’m not a sociologist or anthropologist, nor do I play one on TV, but I am a man living through a lot of questioning of my life right now and pondering how I should react.
This anonymous (at least for now) blog is my attempt to work through some of that. I will welcome constructive or even deeply challenging comments, but please keep your shaming, hating, and judging to yourself. I share it partly for myself, since sharing forces me to think more carefully and clearly and since it may help others who are struggling with similar issues.
I’ll tackle whatever is front of mind. It likely won’t be all about me or men or Canada, or sex or any one thing. Partly because, in my life, I’ve never managed to be a specialist. My interests are varied and so are my concerns.